Tarot Temple

After the foremost request during Tarot readings for fortune telling, the next request is for readings on relationship issues. Wherever relationships are involved, there are bound to be issues of deep emotions, issues of ego, issues of self-esteem, and expectations from everyone involved in the relationships. It hardly matters whether the relationship is a family relationship, a friendship, a work or business related relationship, or a romantic relationship.

For the reader of Tarot cards, dealing in relationship issues is not very easy. In relationships, egos are involved, communication and communication styles are involved, each person involved in the relationship has his/her own agenda, and each person in the equation tends to look at the problem from his/her own perspective – whereas he/she needs to look at the problems from the others’ point of view, too.

The focus of the reading needs to be on the Querent – to see how he views himself in the perspective of the issues involved. After all, the aim is to let the Querent feel that there are options he can exercise, that he has a sense of control over his life.

The Reading
Because of the variety of relationships involved, the reader may have to break down the readings into a series of separate readings. The initial reading could be about the Querent and how he sees himself. The focus here could be on the questions: how does the Querent see himself, and feel about himself; what are his strengths and weaknesses; what is the Querent seeking in the relationship, and what does he feel about it; what is the Querent bringing into the relationship; etc.

Most of the issues have their foundation in family relationships. The need to define himself, the need to meet family expectations, and the need to live up to them – these are some of the things faced by the Querent in the context of family. To enhance the sense of self-esteem in the Querent, issues within the family need to be resolved. Resolution and healing in family relationships may help deal with other relationship issues much better. To deal with family relationships, the reader may need to focus on the following questions:

• What does the Querent feel about his family, in general, and where does he see himself within the family
• What are his feelings towards the family members with whom he is having issues
• How does he view these issues, and how do the family members view the issues
• What actions is the Querent willing to take to help resolve the issues
• Etc, etc

Friendship is another relationship that can go wrong. Friendships sour if they are one-sided, and need to be balanced to flourish. Here too, the focus of the reader should be on: how does the Querent view his friend, and vice versa; is the Querent supportive of his friend, and vice versa; what brings joy and pain to the Querent in this friendship; how and where does the Querent position himself in the friendship; etc. Other questions to focus on could be: how well does the Querent communicate with his friend, and vice versa; where does he see his friendship heading; what actions is he prepared to take to see a resolution to the friendship issues; etc.

Similarly, work and business relationships are also complex. Here, in addition to issues of ego, money and positions are involved. The issues involved depend on the type of relationships that have been established – with the co-workers, with the managers, or supervisors, etc. Though the Querent may think that the issues are clear, in these cases they normally are not.

The reader can help the Querent focus within himself to get at the answers.